It is a weird topic for someone like me to choose. I wonder how people around me are so brave and courageous to continue in their worst times and I remain sat down for a while wondering how tired am I.
But seriously how to be happy in the worst times? This is what I am going to answer you along with sharing some snippets of behind the scenes for my book “Olive Green”
7 tips to remain happy in the tough times
You must be wondering why I choose to add snippets of my newly released book along with such a sensitive topic but you will get the answer very soon.
So what are you waiting for? Let us begin now.
1. Focus on what you have
In 2023, I lost some of my most cherished pets along with a job opportunity to visit Uzbekistan. I wondered to myself then, what am I doing with my life? Am I being too selfish? Am I being too self-centric? But later I realized, I was overwhelmed with a lot of emotions at that point of time. I didn’t know any better then.
In my grief, I forgot almost everyone in my life, be it the pets I still have or the strays I play with daily. Every one of them is special. I can't stop losing my pets but I can at least do what is best for me, that is keep loving all the pets I have till date around me. Love them, care for them, nurture them.
This is exactly what it means to see the glass half-full. Focus on what you have rather than what you lost in your life.
2. Slow down
Sometimes, it becomes so difficult to continue doing what you are doing just because your mind is overloaded with too many things, you don’t know what to do next, isn’t it?
While I was dealing with the household chores, taking care of my pets and studying, with the lot of difficulty, I mastered the art of slowing down a bit even if not much anyhow.
“You have to do, just a little bit of work. not more , not less. Just this little work. clean this bedroom now.” After doing so, “Now, it is time to clean the drawing room, just this little room and you are done with it.” Next, “It is time for you to take a bath , after that you are going to take lots of rest.”
I continued doing so until and unless, I completed everything on my to-do list. Once over, you feel not only a sense of satisfaction but convincing your mind actually helps you while you are almost about to give up.
3. Spend time with strangers
This is the best gift that you can gift yourself. If you think like sitting at home, do so, but if you ever get an opportunity to spend time with strangers, don’t think before doing so. You are not a child, you are probably a teenager or an adult reading my blogs.
So , don’t forget spend time with strangers. They can give you a breathe of fresh air while you are struck in your own prison. They can provide you a helping hand with their new insights. For instance, while I was doing an author photoshoot, the photographer was one such person. I loved hearing his stories of how he learned everything of photography on his own. How he managed to spend hours after hours on YouTube to learn video editing yet he managed to continue his passion anyhow. I was awe-struck. I used one of his photos as my cover picture for “Olive Green”.
In the end, I was inspired by his courage to hear that he lost hundred thousand of Instagram followers which left him heart-broken yet he is continuing doing his photography because he loves doing so.
4. Set one exciting goal everyday
How can I forget to write this without writing this?
For past 9 years, this is what kept me alive. A goal, a task, one at a time. I wonder what I would have been if I had not married to my goals. A depressed girl, a sad girl, or a suicidal girl. Sometimes, I wonder what my life would have been like.
You can choose to do anything you like. you can choose to learn make-up. you can watch reels on how to style your dresses. You can choose to make difference in your own world with simple things like learning to cook a new dish or cleaning a long-neglected portion of your house. Even arranging your clothes in order can make your life better instead of opening to the wrong people.
5. Learn something daily
For those who know me, they know how much do I love my pets. Losing them is the greatest pain that can be inflicted on me as a person, but have you ever wondered, what makes me alive till date apart from focusing on the pets I have till now. It is the art of learning and thinking about my ultimate good. It can be anything like focusing on your higher education, it can be a gratitude journal.
One of my friends after his break-up focused on making different kinds of arts, paintings, and illustrations. I focused on website development, blog writing and digital marketing along with writing about Olive Green. I used all the good experiences in the world to add that positive touch to my manuscript that makes living worth-while in the tough times.
6. Don’t judge
It is easy to live in pain rather than use them as an experience to learn something better. Pain is a part of your life, so does grief. So does anger, regret. If you are accepting whole-heartedly all the good experiences in your life then you should learn to accept all the negative experiences as well. Success and failure is a part but more than that, each phase prepares you for the next lesson. It continues in circles. That is why, it is important to stop judging yourself and others for all the emotions that they feel.
Love with all your heart. Love as if it is the last thing on earth. Don’t forget but forgive. Practice detachment each and every time, it is needed. Keep quiet, make your actions louder than words, but don’t waste your time thinking about what others are doing.
Focus on your overall well-being now.
7. Be around people who brings out the best in you
You become what the people in your circle are. So, it is essential to surround yourself with like-minded people who brings out the best in you. If you spend around creative people, you turn out to be creative. I remember a time during “Olive Green” when I almost gave up on my project, tired and exhausted to the core until one of my friends scolded me for not publishing for past two years.
It was then, I got the courage to get up and start my impending work for the book and get it done.
The greatest myth in the world is hard times makes our life difficult but with the above steps, you can make your life better in some way or the other. I don’t know how many of you experienced this thing, but have you ever looked back in your life and wondered to yourself, “I lived well in my hard times too.”
If you, don’t forget to share your experiences with me either in the contact form or in the comments section below.
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